Good Grief

by Kay Arnold
(Deming NM)

You make it sound like we are all so fragile emotionally, are we? Really? We can't be away from family and friends without feeling sad, bad or worse! If your travel partner is a pain in backside before hitting the road they are going to be a bigger pain in the backside in a smaller space and traveling. Sort it out before you pack.

I find that some people complain and snivel, yes snivel, to get attention or to be controlling not that they really care about the alleged problem or not. Sometimes the so called problem is a "Red Herring" to get what ever it is they want.

I am sure there are some people who are so weak that they cannot do without daily or more frequent contact with friends and relatives those folks should never leave where they are for any reason. Usually they already know that and don't leave unless forced to by serious circumstances.

Then there are the rest of us; solid, reliable, self sufficient, adventurous, gregarious and optimistic who travel by any means possible to anywhere we can afford to go and have a wonderful time and spread a little sunshine where ever we are. We don't pay attention to or rely on mental health professionals for advice in how to conduct ourselves. We can figure it out without their help. I am hopeful that there are more of us than of the former or this would be a sorry society indeed.

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Good Grief

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Apr 07, 2012

My wife and i are of the self sufficient type too...
by: Thom

When i read the original post and then re-read sections to my wife she was cracking up (as i had done). We are in our early 50's and live full time in a beautiful and cozy 38ft rv.

What was funny to us both is that on nearly every bullet or section heading we were nearly the opposite. . .

* We are each others best friend (and actually, really? only true friend)

* For ~30 years of marriage we are rarely more than an arm's length away.

* We can have "quiet time" sitting at the same table and plenty of "emotional space".

* We each have "our" hobby, but participate in each others.

* Family members are seen _maybe_ once in two years. And our two kids are both in the US Air Force and we _might_ be blessed in seeing them once every two also. This is normal for us and actually, we really, really enjoy it! When we do get together they are full of catch up stories and fantastic times/memories!

* We don't do the typical Hallmark Greeting card holidays (or any of them, and no it was not religious in nature, we just got tired of western materialism around certain festivals/holidays so we rebelled and just said NO to all of them!)

* Our only "House" has wheels so it goes where we do.

* Making friends? We are happy hermits, though if there is a gathering we are cordial and make friends for the occasion easily.

* Boredom. LOL. We live and travel mostly in the Pacific Northwest, it rains ~100 inches in our area of the coast. We amuse ourselves in spite of being cooped up nearly 9 months of the year, and the other three in poncho and galoshes ;)

Anywhoo, we are all different. And the happy-hermit lifestyle my wife and i thrive in is not for many out there, but it is for us. We actually would not know what to do with ourselves if we were expected to be at social gatherings on the weekends or week nights.

Happy Trails

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