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Moving Day

by TerriS
(Long Beach, WA)

Ray and I have been RVing full time for 7 years now. It took some adjusting from living in a stick house (like paying attention to the level in the black tank!) But we've done pretty well, IMO.

One of the first things that we learned was about moving and stress. They don't go together very well. At all. We found ourselves saying and doing things that appalled us when we thought about it later.

Here are some of the rules that we came up with:

1. We have our jobs to do to get ready to move, and to set up in the new place. We do not criticize what, or how, the other person is handling their job. If help is needed, we will ask the other person.

2. Nobody cooks on moving day. Moving, driving and setting up is tiring. There is no sense in adding to it by cooking, if you don't have to.

3. The person who is not driving does not have the right to criticize the one who is. Period.

Usually, Ray and I don't talk to each other on moving day at all. It just makes it easier that way.

If we have a problem, we figure out what it is (it is not always obvious) and talk about it. But not on moving day.

If you need some time alone, tell your partner. Ray and I take a lot of our personal time when the other person is sleeping. Every once in awhile, Ray will only sleep about 2 hours at a time (he does this 1-2 weeks at a time, though). There have been times, when he is coming out of our bedroom and I have pointed to the clock, then to him, and said "You haven't even been in bed for 2 hours (or whatever). Go back to bed and don't come down again."

Since we don't usually talk to each other like that, it surprised me that I said it, and it surprised me when he went back to bed and slept about 6 more hours. lol. Mostly, I just ask him to go talk to one of this friends for awhile.

These things may not work for any of you who are reading this. But then, they might.

Some of the really nice things that I like about this lifestyle is that, when we don't like what we see outside our windows, we can move our home someplace else. We own our home. We don't have anything owing to anybody, expect for space rent where ever we stay. I grew up in rental houses and rental apartments. For me, this is a big, big bonus.

When you made the decision to live as a full or half-timer, you made a decision together (hopefully). The nice thing about decisions is that they can be changed. If you find that living in a RV is simply not for you, you are not stuck. You simply make another decision to live somewhere else.

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Jan 01, 2011
That's Great Advice!
by: Marianne

You've offered some great advice, Terri. I would never have equated relocating to a new campsite to be like a "moving day" from a sticks and brick home but it's a great analogy, especially as it relates to heightened stress levels.

Since our style of RVing is usually to move every few days, we don't think of it the same yet, it's certainly true that there's extra potential for stress and emotions to fly out of control on those days.

Because we're often exploring a new place and looking for a boondocking spot, there's always the extra stress of not knowing where we will actually end up that night. (Imagine moving from your house and not knowing anything about the one you're moving into.)

One thing that helps us is, upon arrival in the new area, we look for our campsite first before doing any other activities, even if it's still morning or early afternoon. After we've determined that, we can go about seeing other things. We also never arrive after dark. If our destination is too far, we plan an overnight stop somewhere in-between.

Your moving day "rules" are great and we'll definitely use them on our next trip!

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